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I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and have been practicing for over 16 years. I am specialized in couples therapy and work with individuals as well. When I work with clients I teach them necessary skills to improve not only their relationships but themselves as well. My hope is for my clients to make changes that will make them healthier individuals which will then make their relationships healthier and happier. If you're interested in obtaining information, setting up an appointment, or learning more about my practice please visit my website at www.therapywithanita.com you can also go to my page on psychology today at http://Therapists.PsychologyToday.com/rms/79368

Thursday, July 16, 2015

Anita's Quick Tip: Positive Feedback

Positive Feedback:
Couples can tend to focus on what their partner is NOT doing or what they’re doing wrong in the relationship and overlook the good things their partner has been doing.  Are you more focused on the negatives?  Are you giving more negative feedback than positive?  Be honest, do you find that you are doing this?  Most couples do.  Therefore, it is really important for you to refocus and pay attention to the positive efforts your partner is making, or the considerate things they are doing for you and the relationship and acknowledge that.  You should be thanking each other for anything you can.  You should also often question yourself….. “When was the last time I acknowledged my partner in a positive, loving way?”

You and your partner should make it a habit to give each other an appreciation daily.  It can be about anything, not just something that was done in that day.  I tell couples to try to do this in the evening, as I feel it’s a great way to end the day!

My Thought:
Giving positive feedback to your partner will motivate and encourage positive behaviors to keep happening.  When we bring more positivity into our lives we feel happier and when we are happier issues are a lot easier to deal with!

I APPRECIATE you taking the time to read this!