Something to Think About:
How much of an accepting person are you? Do you get angry if someone is not doing or handling something the way you would? Do you try to change the differences in your partner or others so they match yours?
In your relationship…
It is important to learn to let go of the idea of being right and wrong, it doesn't solve the problem. Instead it leaves you both feeling defensive, while trying to convince your partner why you are RIGHT and they are wrong. Therefore, learning to ACCEPT the other for who they are and not who we EXPECT them to be, and ACCEPTING that you may both have a difference in opinions and/or how you do things…..and that’s okay. Then learning to work together to solve the issue, so you BOTH walk away feeling good and satisfied.
Learning to accept others for who they are does not mean that you have to agree or are agreeing with them. Instead acceptance allows us to live peacefully with one another and our differences, without getting mad about it. Acceptance also does NOT mean that you should stop encouraging your partner to change habits that can help them as an individual (i.e., quit smoking) or that would help the relationship (i.e., speaking in a nicer tone), Nor does it mean accepting dangerous situations such as abuse.
If you can do this, not only will you have a healthier relationship, but you will feel happier as an individual and as a couple.
Okay, now go back to the top of this post and think of those questions….so how accepting do you think you are? And remember as the serenity prayer says…..
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; and the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.......”
My Thought:
Stop expecting others to act in the same ways that you do, otherwise you are setting yourself up for anger and disappointment…(negative emotions). Instead, let those negative emotions go and in a positive light.... try to be more accepting. It is another way of staying open minded, open hearted, happy, and understanding.
