Part 5 Drifting Apart......... Intimacy

Through my work in my private practice I see how men and women differ in many ways. You may have read about the differences or noticed them on your own. The most common ones that seem to be spoken about the most are; differences in communication and intimacy. Women tend to be more expressive and detailed and men seem to be more focused on fixing (skip all the details, tell me the problem and I’ll fix it). Women like romance and men tend to be focused on the physical intimacy itself.

Something I’ve learned is that……….

Women need to feel close and loved in order to be physically intimate and men feel close and loved when they are physically intimate.

My Thought

I would say for men, try to be more romantic, leave a love note or poem some place, give compliments, tell her what you appreciate about her, plan a date, or do something around the house that your partner usually does like clean the bathroom, cook dinner, or get the kids ready for bed. You want to do some thoughtful/caring things that you may not normally do.  It’s more desirable for a woman to be physically intimate if she feels appreciated, loved and close to you.

So women it’s the same for you because let’s face it, men want to feel appreciated, loved and close to you too…… but in a different way. You wouldn’t get him flowers would you?  Instead, plan an evening for your partner where you get dressed up in a sexy outfit, make your partners favorite meal, give a sensual massage, or go out dancing so you can be close…....shoot for anything sexy! You can also try to make an effort to engage in an activity that he likes such as watching a sporting event, or go to a car show.

This concludes my series of Drifting Apart!!