Remember back to one of my first posts, using an “I” statement. This is communication based on your feelings. You are simply expressing to one another how you are feeling in a non-blaming kind of way. It does not have to do with being right or wrong. You and your partner are not the same person so you will have different views, and you may not always agree with one another but you should hear each other out and work from there. When you get caught up in who is right and who is wrong, it assures you are NOT hearing what the other person is saying. If you are not listening then how are you going to know how to resolve the issue? How is your partner left feeling? Don’t you want to be heard? And, if the issue does not get resolved it will come up again and again.
This type of communication avoids one of you or both of you becoming defensive. Try to make sure you are communicating on a different level with one another by becoming more aware of your tone, express how you are FEELING, and listen to the other persons feelings - not why you think you are right and they are wrong. Really try to be conscious to let that go and just give each other the chance to express how you are feeling, hear one another’s view and/or needs. You will benefit tremendously in your relationship if you can practice this.
My Thought:
Would you rather be right or HAPPY?
